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how does she?
April 5, 2011Posted by on
How does she…….?
Let’s be honest. As wives, mothers, and women in general we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. It’s something that unfortunately, we either were born with, or we picked up from our own mothers, grandmothers, sisters, or best friend’s second cousin twice removed somewhere along the way. Who knows. The fact is, that it remains. The constant need to not only compare ourselves, but also the need to be accepted so much so that we put on a show for everyone else that says we have it all together all of the time.
In the meantime we sit at home in our laundry rooms, folding away (or not) feeling inadequate because we can’t keep up with what we think other women are totally excelling at. So how does she do it? How does she……..(cook a full course meal every night, keep her kids organized, run this group, volunteer, work a full time job, always pay her bills on time, keep her house spotless, have hobbies and a social life, spend family time etc. etc. etc.) all the while looking beautiful and flirting with her man on a regular basis?
Well Ladies– she doesn’t.
I know it’s hard to believe. In fact, even as I’m typing this I’m thinking, “yea but what about so and so.” STOP. THAT. RIGHT. NOW!
No one person can do all of these things all of the time. We are not perfect. We are awesome, but we are not superhuman. If you allow yourself to continue to get caught up in this cycle of comparison and not recognize that every single one of us has amazing strengths, but that we also have some weaknesses…. you will allow a place for torment to take a hold of your mind and you will begin to tailspin out of control.
I encourage you today to stop comparing and just embrace yourself for who you are. But most of all– ask for help! Embrace your strengths by listing them out and sharing them with others. And strengthen your weaknesses by making them known and asking someone who is better than you to help you practice them!
and when you need a little motivation…take a look into my mornings and know you are not alone 😉