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playing hide and seek with etiquette
April 12, 2011Posted by on
I’m not quite sure that many of us know the rules of etiquette anymore, or if the rules have become so flexible that they just no longer exist- but it seems that everywhere I go I see the rules of what I was always taught as “common courtesy” being broken.
That being said, I have recently developed a few of my own rules to apply on certain occasions.
#1 When hosting a dinner or party, never ask guests to bring anything. If I can’t afford to host the entire meal, then you won’t be invited. The exception to this rule only applies when having close friends over, and we have all previously decided to throw a meal together and my house is the chosen location.
#2 Never go to a dinner or party empty handed. A small gift, or dessert is always a nice way to say thank you, even if the hostess has the meal covered as stated in rule #1.
#3 Facebook is not an appropriate way to invite people to formal events. This applies to anything where people are expected to bring a gift. The post office is still in business, and you can bet that if I am not worth the 42cent stamp and invitation…I will assume I am not invited.
#4 You should never expect a gift just because you invite someone to your event. You should never say “No Gifts” or “Cash Gifts only” on an invitation as it assumes people will be giving you a gift.
#5 If you receive an invitation in the mail with an RSVP- you are expected to respond either way, and it is polite to send a gift even if you cannot attend.
#6 If you are the host/hostess of an event where someone will be receiving gifts, it is impolite to ask guests to help contribute to the hosting of the event. Guests should be guests. Period.
#7 Thank you cards are not a thing of the past. Buy them in bulk, learn to write them and do it often.
#8 It is rude to discuss private plans or inside jokes in front of a group of people who do not know what you are talking about, or who are not invited to the party.
What other rules of etiquette do you use?
Just remember, at every party we throw and in our every day life, there is a young lady somewhere looking up to you– what is she learning?