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producing well rounded children

As parents, I believe it is our responsibility to create in our children a sense of curiosity and to immerse them in all facets of culture (even ones we don’t “prefer”) in order to produce well rounded, adjusted teenagers and adults.

Your children are going to be the adults of tomorrow, and it is up to you to educate them!

It seems to me that many parents have lost touch with a very important role that they play.  Many parents are  so busy that they have neglected not only helping to develop their children’s spiritual beliefs, but also enabling them to carry on a decent conversation because of their lack of knowledge on subjects.

When I was a teenager, I remember being drug taken to many different concerts, sporting events, and basically any kind of cultural experience my parents could get their hands on.  Many weekends  friends of my parents would come over and cook authentic Mexican food, while teaching me how to merengue! I spent a full summer one year traveling the Eastern United States with my grandparents in their motor home, stopping at every Bluegrass Festival along the way to jam with their many friends.  My brother is a very talented athlete and therefore I spent countless hours at the gym watching him play basketball, and also race motocross.

Our society is so plugged in to Facebook, TV, and our cell phones that we don’t have time for actual experiences any more.  When was the last time you turned all of these things off and actually immersed yourself in the present moment?  Actually enjoyed a day with your family without checking your email, text messages or voicemail?  By not being able to do this, we are becoming, and also producing children and teenagers that are socially retarded.  They would rather text you than talk to you.  If they do talk to you, they have trouble keeping eye contact and speaking without mumbling or using slang,  because they feel insecure and vulnerable when not hiding behind a screen.

We have to wake up… we have to educate….If we don’t teach our children while they are in our homes, someone else will when they leave your home and go off to college, or a job.  I for one would much rather have my child know have a knowledge of many different subjects, and be firm in knowing what she believes when she is faced with the real world and it’s views.

Don’t you agree?


potty training


I am so lost.  First of all, I feel like summer has killed my blog.  Like it just snuck up on me like a vicious predator and zapped the life out of my writing abilities.  All that aside however, I am stuck in potty training purgatory.  When it has come to every other milestone, I feel like it just came naturally to me– I didn’t really need to read any books or manuals, I just knew how to proceed.  But this, well this is so much different.  I just have no idea what to do.    I do, however have all the supplies.

Potty seat-check.



Pull Ups-check.


I have googled until my eyes are about to pop out of my head.  Some days Astaire is really willing to sit on the potty, other days she acts like there is a monster hiding in the thing.  I’m not really wanting to clean up another mess like I had to on my carpet the other day (long and gross story…) and so here we are.  I’m thinking, maybe she is not ready- but more like maybe I am not ready.  I’ve heard the younger you start, the easier it is. And of course I’ve heard that they will just do it when they are ready (like 4?) who knows!!! No really, who of you know?

So I’m asking you…please comment.  Give me your input, tell me your ways wise readers.


great expectations

I know I have mentioned (several times) my new found struggles with Astaire and her tantrums….but I have a happy update today!  We are making some progress.  I have found over the past several days and trips out, that if I set her up for what we are about to do, and clearly state my expectations, we are all much happier and she does so well!

An example of what I might say would go something like this as we are walking in to the store, church, or even a playdate:

“Astaire, we are going to go in to __________ now.  Mama expects you to be a good girl, be obedient and (sit in the cart/go to your class and play with your friends/share your toys) without getting upset.   If you don’t, you will get a time-out, do you understand? (she will say yes) You are such a  big girl, and you are going to a great job!”

We go in, and sometimes she needs a little reminding—but a reminder is usually all she needs.  We have had several successful trips this week, including one to the zoo! She did absolutely wonderful all day, with zero meltdowns and she even got to feed a giraffe right out of her hand….TWICE!

life in the slow lane

Today it finally hit me why I am chronically late, three steps behind and always wishing there were atleast 10 more hours in a day– I have a toddler.

I do not consider myself to be a stupid person, but for some reason I have a hard time getting the concept that it now takes at least twice the amount of time I would normally take for said task, to actually complete it. That is not allotting time for potential meltdowns or tantrums, which as we all know, could last anywhere from 2 seconds – 20 minutes on a bad day.

Recently I made the mistake choice to let Astaire help me with some chores around the house.  Now even my daily routine of cleanup has come to a screeching hault, as she has to be involved in everything I do.  It’s cute, and I love her willingness to help, I pray it continues into her teenage years (yea right who am I kidding??).  And it gives me daily laughs.

Today, when we finished our snack while watching cartoons- she promptly took my bowl & hers to the trash can and threw them away! I had to then explain to her that they went into the kitchen on the counter…but yet again she surprised me by pulling open the dishwasher!  I said “Do you want to put them in the dishwasher” and she said “YESH!” So I pulled out the drawers and she threw them (literally) in on top of the other dishes.

She also has a special stool that she uses to stand on to help me prep dinner, throw the laundry into the washer (one piece at a time), and anything else she can’t do from her level.  Here are a few photos of her helping around the house.

I have noticed that when she is involved and helping, it definitely makes our day go much smoother and she is much happier!

How do you keep your little ones involved, and what kind of age appropriate tasks do you give them to do?